Is boring the new cool?

Hi, my name is Jezema, and I am not a writer. I’m a commoner working to meet her vision-board goal of a new “creative outlet” – a blog. I welcome you and apologize in advance for the mess this may become!

It’s a new year (2025), I am newly 26 years old, and I do not know what I’m doing with my life just yet but NOT in a negative way… I think. I grew up with goals and aspirations like any young, naive, and spontaneous child. Instead of becoming what I had envisioned, life took me in a completely different direction. I live with my boyfriend and 2 pets in a nice, humble apartment, work an 8-5 with PTO and benefits, have about 3 close friends (one being my little sister), and like to lay around for fun. I live a simple life I guess; a little boring.

I’m not going to get into great detail on how I ended up in this seemingly boring place – or not yet at least. Just know that I’ve never been the type to stay home, remain isolated, or even keep a healthy relationship, so this is all completely new to me. As tough as the adjustment has been, I must admit that I LOVE BEING BORING.

Okay if I’m being completely honest, I kind of had a ton of anxiety yesterday on the topics of boring and cool. I’ve always been a social butterfly. If I isolate, will I get rejected by society? Will I regret steering away from the social norms of clubbing? Will I miss making reckless decisions that have consequences? Will I not be a cool 20-something year old anymore?

“Cool” is most definitely subjective, and to me, it meant rebellious fun, a zero-cares attitude, and consequences that ate at any ounce of dignity left in me. It was freeing…destructive, yet freeing.

In the last year of my life, I have learned a different kind of free. One that consists of rebelling against social norms, not caring about judgement but instead about genuine people, life and time, and suffering the consequence of becoming 10 times more emotional – I cry A LOT. In the rebellious, zero-cares, and consequential spirit of freedom, I would say my subjective thoughts on “cool” have changed. What may look and seem boring on the outside is truly careful, loving, cozy, and peaceful on the inside.

Trust me when I say that I am still adjusting; it’s not an easy transition. There are times where I feel like a complete loser without validation as a huge part of my life depended on that. However, the universe has been patient with me thus far, providing me with all that I need to move forward, and I am trusting the path ahead of me and remaining grateful (gratitude is on my vision board also, but I’ll talk about that another day LOL).

To tell the truth, my current simple life has been what I so desperately needed to encourage a creative outlet in the first place. There’s newfound wonder and purpose in my life again, which is where this blog stems from. In the midst of an overwhelming, judgmental, and flat out scary social age, I wanted to offer this safe haven with insights on a girl in her 20-somethings without 50k followers and influencing tactics. A space where out of place fits in, and ultimately, where boring is the new cool.

Welcome, Daisy!